Donor Family & Recipient Correspondence

Writing to Your Donor Family

Most transplant recipients choose to write to the family of their donor to express their gratitude for their gift of life. Many donor families appreciate a personal note from their loved one's recipient as it provides them with comfort and healing.

By writing a letter, you're letting the donor family know that their loved one's gift has made a difference. Please do not be disappointed if you do not receive a letter in return. All families grieve differently and they may not be ready to respond.
It may be difficult to find the right words to express the gratitude you have to your donor family.

Tips for Writing the First Note or Letter:

  • Acknowledge your donor family’s loss with expressions of sympathy.
  • Express your gratitude for your donor's gift.
  • Tell the donor family about yourself, your family and your hobbies/interests.
  • Share how this gift has impacted your life.

Remember, the length of the letter does not matter. Speak from your heart, as just a few sentences can make a difference to a family that has experienced the loss of a loved one.

Sending Your Note or Letter

To protect the confidentiality of both the donor and recipient, all correspondence is initially facilitated through NJ Sharing Network. You may include first names, but please do not include last names, emails, addresses or phone numbers in your note.

Once your note is written, attach a separate cover sheet with

  • Your name
  • Address
  • Date of transplant
  • Telephone number
  • Email address

You will be notified by NJ Sharing Network if we receive a response from your donor's family.

Please send your note/letter and cover sheet to:

NJ Sharing Network
Family Services
691 Central Avenue
New Providence, NJ 07974

For more information, email Family Services or call (908) 516-5411.